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28 weeks, 1 day! General Update

March 24th, 2006 (01:50 pm)

... Wow! I am Offically in my thrid trimester, at 7 months pregnant!

Dont think the belly is doing that bad either. Nathan is moving around now, and we can really see the tummy ripple when he does. ;)

So far, the only complaint I've had is about a few bouts of bad acid reflux/heart burn. But this is mostly my fault, as I do good not to eat hours before bed. Sometimes I forget that drinking sweet tea a few hours before can have ill effects. Also. Cookies, even the reduced fat ones.. even ONE, is enough to give me heart burn if I lay on the couch.
So that's a no no.

The good news:
We have our next ultrasound scheduled.

Hurray! I look forward to getting to see him again (and possibly the ninja baby), and getting to see what his face looks like.

Doctor appointment pending, since one.. his office is closed today. And two, he's on vacation for a lenght of time to be determinded (everytime we set the appointment for 28 weeks, I am told.. Opps! Doc is going to be on Vacation!)

papawolff and I are also talking about going away for the weekend, starting next week.

The bad news:
I kind of feel the need to get out of here. You guys don't know unless you read my other journal, but I found out one of my close friends (who I consider like an older sister) died. I hadn't talk to her in a number of months, because we always fell back into contact. But her death touched me deeply. I knew her since I was 16.. so a little under 10 years.

I don't feel the need to get away from here, because of memories we had together. As much as it is, some people I know real life.. who I consider my friends. Knew about her death, and couldn't even bother to add the
"I am so sorry to hear it. Are you okay?"
with the exception of one, who saught me out privately.
It's not like they aren't reading either, because when I bring it up.. I get the response "oh, yeah."

If I put up a post with my wedding pictures, I'll get 30 people to respond. I post that I lost someone close to me, I get 3 people responding. One of which is my own mother.

What does this say?


Posted by: Melanie S (okp)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 08:19 pm (UTC)

Many times, people just don't know what to say when someone loses a loved one. And they are afraid of sounding trite or insincere.

But I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's always tough losing someone, no matter how long it had been since you had contact. Sometimes the best friends are the ones we can go years without talking to.

Posted by: themysticsdream (themysticsdream)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 08:46 pm (UTC)

you know, what you say makes alot of sense.. and it was something that I thought about.
I just wish they would have tried to make an effort.

Thank you very much.

By the way. I may not comment alot, but I've got my fingers (and toes) crossed for you for the next 3 days!

Posted by: helper_no1 (helper_no1)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 09:06 pm (UTC)

Third trimester!! Arrrr sooo cool!! I'm currently 23 weeks, everything is getting a little slower for me :) my belly has exploded!! its soo cool.

I'm also sorry to hear about your friend. Its a funny thing how people respond, but if you think about it, as we grow up we are "taught" how to deal with excitement and "happy" occasions a lot more than "sad" occasions. In addition, everyone reacts to a "happy" situation in much the same way, but with a "sad" one there are soo many different responses. So people tend to avoid them because they just have no idea what to do. We live in a society where expression of joy is accepted, but not one quite knows where expression of sadness fits in. I think that makes sense 

Posted by: themysticsdream (themysticsdream)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 09:36 pm (UTC)

I know! You are growing so fast!!!! Can't wait to see tummy pictures. :)

Thank you.. Yeah, I'll agree with that. I just found it strange that even with the conversations I was having, they knew.. but they just went on, and talked about other things.

Thanks for the response dear. I really appericate it!

Posted by: dangling participles are where it's at (ilwitchgrrl)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 09:13 pm (UTC)

Honey, I'm sorry to hear about your friend...I don't know how, but somehow I didn't see that post from your other journal on my friends list or I would have said something then. As you may have picked up from my recent post, I know what it's like to lose someone you're close to, way too young.

BTW, I can see the post when I go to your other journal main page, so I don't know how I missed it. I can't figure out how to comment from your journal though...I can respond to posts of yours when they're on my friends page, but I can't seem to figure out how to respond from your journal main page, unless I'm just retarded.

I'm sorry, I feel really bad...I think, regarding the comments, sometimes people just don't know what to say when bad things happen? It's no excuse really, but it's been my experience too.

If you don't go out of town this weekend, you want to get together for like milkshakes or something? Food and commiseration. I think I'm free either afternoon, Saturday or Sunday, and I'll probably already be in the city because I have to work so I'll be closer anyway. If you don't feel like talking though, I understand that too...I'm not really good about opening up my feelings to people so I know what it's like to be that way.

Posted by: themysticsdream (themysticsdream)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 09:48 pm (UTC)

Its okay. I figured there was alot of stuff going on with you, and you may have missed it. I didn't hold that against you at all.
I did.. I didn't get the details, but I am sorry about losing your friend, so young. Must have been really hard for you.
I responded, but didnt mean to make your pain seem like any less. ;(

Are you using Internet Explorer?
I am trying to figure out how to get techinal, because with I.e. you can get to the comment button, unless there is a cut invovled! It works fine in FireFox.

No, I understand that.. what floored me is people I know, having read the post. Having known, and not saying anything. Like, aw, dude. Suck. Something. I've had a few private comments, away from LJ which was fine too. but if I talk to someone like in person, or IM, and they know what is going on, and they dont say anything.. it just.. gets me. you know?

.. You're working on the weekend?!? Oh you poor thing. It's supposed to be soooo nice this weekend! :(

Mh. Milkshakes. It would be next weekend, we'd be going. I have a date with Jessica for dinner on Saturday night, but otherwise.. I am free on Saturday. Sunday I need to run out to my moms to get my liscense plates, but other than that.. I am also free. ;) If you want to get together for milkshakes that would be totally fine. Or whichever. (I dont know if Cereality is by you) I'd be down.

By the way. Are you still selling Creative Memories?

Posted by: dangling participles are where it's at (ilwitchgrrl)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 10:34 pm (UTC)

I'm just about to leave work for the night, so I'll respond in more detail later, but I have two things to say first:

1) you mentioned tlaking to friends IRL who knew about your loss and didn't say anything, and it reminded me of a time shortly after Roxanne died (like a couple days); my (now ex friend) Jen and I were both very close to her, and we were together and ran into a friend of Jens who had met/hung out with me several times, we got along well, and who knew I was a close friend of Roxanne's as well. He hugged Jen, told her how sorry he was to hear about Roxanne...and didn't say one word to me. (And he was gay, so he totally should have been more sensitive!) Not. a. word. I may as well have been invisible. It was like "hey buddy, that was my best friend too, I'm hurting over here!" it was just...I still don't know how to describe it. Some people just don't get it.

2) I have never heard of Cereality, so that probably means we don't have any of them, but for some reason the name makes me think of a giant bowl of Cap'n Crunch and now I want some Cap'n!!!!!! MMMMMM

OK I really gotta go home now :)

Posted by: dangling participles are where it's at (ilwitchgrrl)
Posted at: March 26th, 2006 09:00 pm (UTC)

Hey! I just wanted to touch base and let you know I'm not trying to blow you off about this weekend, though it may seem like it because I'm a douche and didn't say anything earlier :( but I'm feeling massively icky and didn't even go to work today (I did drag myself in yesterday but didn't manage today). I think I caught some hellacious headcold because I'm TOTALLY stuffy and my throat hurts pretty bad. And of course we can't take, like, anything, so I can't even dope up :( Can we do a rain check on milkshakes or cereal or whatever?

Posted by: S Lynn (robling_t)
Posted at: March 24th, 2006 11:41 pm (UTC)

In my case, it's often because I don't necessarily check in every day, and by the time I see the posts with bad news it can feel like it would be awkward to bring it up again at that point... Or some people just don't know how to commit their feelings about things like this to print, either. (Or in person, for that matter -- humans are strange animals...)

Posted by: Vanilla Cookie (angellam)
Posted at: March 25th, 2006 03:24 am (UTC)

Echoing on what others said...

It's really hard to know what to say when someone loses someone.

It's not that we don't read it or ask how you are...it's just that we might not know what to say right away.

We love you. Yep.


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